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Behind Every Successful Man is a Woman

Shoemoney and Chow in recent posts on their respective blogs have said that they didn’t find success until they had met their wives.

Shoemoney because he was able to become better disciplined (and thus focus):

My success can be traced back to the day I met my wife. You take a brilliant marketing mind and apply some discipline and work ethic and magic things happen.

Chow because of the support the significant other gives:

I was doing OK before I met Sarah. However, I didn’t hit big time until she came into my life. No, she wasn’t some Internet guru or superstar blogger. She knew nothing about that stuff. What she did offer was a positive family environment and unwavering support for whatever it was that I wanted to do. She was my number one cheerleader and inspired me to levels I never dreamed possible. You will be amazed at the things you can do when you have a truly supportive wife or girlfriend backing you.

Both obviously had the ingredients/talent to become successful (as they have), but that didn’t happen until they lined up the support and discipline from a significant other.

Having the support of a significant other is huge — someone that believes in you and will be there to lift your spirits even if you fall flat on your face as an entrepreneur. They are also a time savings — in my case, when I have a significant other, I spend less time at bars til all hours of the night (and then wasting the following morning), and instead can focus to accomplish more.

What’s your situation? Do you find having, or not having, a significant other to be beneficial to your success (support and focus)?

  • Rex Dixon

    I would say the RIGHT significant other is the key. This one is of course supporting everything I do. Great person indeed as in the beginning Rex was not making a dime, and working a day gig along with doing the blogging, podcasting, and trying to get my foot in the door. Through persistence, luck, and being in the right place at the right time – all those long thankless ($$) hours into 1am to get up at 5am to go to a day gig – paid off. If there wasn’t support, I may have not been as focused.

    Now the RIGHT person is the key. Just because you have a significant other person, it doesn’t mean they will support you. This sheds light on further problems not only relating to supporting you in your goals and drive, but other areas. My advice is to cut loose the person that is holding you back sooner than later.


  • Paula

    Now that I’m single, I find I get a lot more done. I don’t have to build in time with my significant other, or worry about him being hurt or becoming needy because I’m not there all the time. I can choose how to spend my time, rather than it being a negotiation over a shared agenda.

    But part of the problem was the wrong significant other….and knowing that in a relationship, I need someone who is very independent, has interests beyond those that we share, and recognizes the importance of each partner spending time alone.

  • Robert

    My wife definitely helps me, primarily in staying motivated and focused. I tend to have a short attention span when it comes to working projects and she always keeps me in line.

    Well, most of the time anyway :)

  • matt

    Try working from a home office with 3 kids and tell me the wife is a boon to one’s accomplishments… 😉

  • Hustle Strategy

    I think finding the right motivation and encouragement is key to success. I don’t think it has to be found through a relationship though.

    “If you know the enemy and know yourself you need not fear the results of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy then for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.” Sun Tzu

    I feel that things can be brought down extremely quickly by a bad relationship, so avoiding those is important.

  • Dario

    In Napoleon Hill’s “Think and grow rich”, he spend a whole chapter talking about how important is to have the right woman with you to achieve big things.


  • success blogger

    I don’t know about that. You have not met my woman yet.